Women have long lived in and served the patriarchal society. They have for eons vested their time and effort, kept their own desires and ambitions aside and nurtured men and their illogical presumptions. People have forced women, trained women in believing that they deserve to be restrained and cannot and must not step outside. They belong in the kitchen and have no place in the army, banks or industries. Women have been brainwashed to such an extent that were pitted against their own kind.
It’s a welcoming sign to see people, not only women but also men realise this and urge societies to understand the stereotypes and shackles that have been placed on women and how unjust they are. It’s a sign of a progressive society where women also take it upon themselves to fight against such oppression and have their voice heard. A lot will be said and done when a woman opines and she must endure the resistance to able to continue to stick to her stand and I say, she must, because the time is such. We of course pray, our daughters need not fight for the things that we feel now and sadly those that our mothers never felt. Now, I am glad, there will be equal opportunities for education in families and societies that otherwise would have preferred boys to attain that only. I am glad men have realized that even their better halves are educated and deserve to work and deserve the same amount of rest at home and hence find it logical to divide housework too, if not become house-husbands themselves. But the evils in society haven’t turned topsy-turvy. They exist in the same form that they used to before. The reason your mom wouldn’t let you stay out till late in night is also based on safety concerns. I wouldn’t know when to argue on that. Parents go the extra mile to give that freedom to their daughters by being present to pick them up or drop them when it’s not safe. Rapes do happen. Can’t deny that. The society needs more rinsing and purification than we initially thought, right? I am not against anything here, only saying there are more problems than those that we are addressing. Prioritizing them is paramount to the safety and sanity of society. I would like to mention here, the rape of a woman in Gurgaon (http://www.ndtv.com/gurgaon-news/after-gang-rape-gurgaon-woman-travelled-to-hospital-on-metro-holding-dead-baby-1708848) who was travelling late at night to her parents’ house with a 9-year old baby. The baby was thrown from auto rickshaw she was travelling in (leading to spot death) and she was raped. This obviously is the worst case scenarios, but parents are not willing to take any risk.
Another observation from the whole feminism talk is that girls now find that it is cool to be tomboys and it won’t be appreciated if she is girly, whatever that means by common society norms. Girls have started to think it is cooler to be one those who smoke or drink, because the guys and the ‘cool’ girls in their group are doing it, even though they might not actually like it. Girls now think, they have to be a certain way to appear more feministic. Girls shy away from accepting that they love cooking. They force themselves and read about football when they actually like baking, because cooking is something that ladies of older generations fancied pursuing. This mindset that is evolving from the feminist movement is wrong. Women are not meant to do everything that men can. I will not even say that women are meant to do everything that men can’t. What I believe in, is that men and women are all meant to do what they like. (Not in total agreement of the image attached below, which is being circulated so much)
Are we getting it wrong? While people are preaching what they think is right, what really matters is what the young minds are learning. Things said in a particular way can be made out as something else by different minds. While we can’t control it all, effort still should be made into making sure, our voice comes out right. The fact that there is a discussion and debate on what women should and shouldn’t do, in itself is regressive. Feminism is not about taking each other’s place; it is about having your own. If you have the freedom of choosing what you want, you have enough. Endorsing this is feminism. And it is for all.